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After a very busy and crazy month of november, we are finally at our new house, in the process of making it our new home.

Stay tune for a tour soon!

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I am realising, in my short carreer as a mom, how imitation is something (most of the time) good. ¬†Necessary, Useful in fact. ¬†Having read a lot about Montessori and Waldorf, I have come to see imitation as a important part of being a parent. ¬†A tool in the toolbox that should not be forgotten, but used and repeated until it becomes an automatism, for you and for the kids. ¬†Looking back, it amazes me how many tasks or transition I am able to perform now with my child without having to go through the battles that I used to.(Brushing teeth anyone?)How many things have my kids picked up simply by looking at us. ¬†I have been grateful for this lesson that I have learned quite early when I became a mom, but that I didn’t use enough as first, not knowing it’s real power.

 

But I have come to realize in the last few days how imitation is even stronger then that. ¬†Imitation works in a way more deeper level, one that will touch my children’s lives for a long time, and that will even shape who they are and what they believe, even at the ages of my own children, that are preschooler. ¬†Imitation shapes beliefs, values, and ways of doing things. ¬†And if anything, although I always thoughts values were something that was learned later in life, I think now that they are absorbed while they are little. ¬†When they got older, they get to a point where they can change their values if they feel like they don’t mean anything to them, but the first set of values are the one they internalize. ¬†How beautiful and yet so scary is that??

That means that everything we say and do, becomes the groundwork of what my children will be, will feel or how they ¬†will see things. ¬†They will build the rest on that basis, the one they are living in right now and just swallowing in. ¬†If we never get to have dinner as a family, and we are always eating on the go, my kids will see this as being “normal” and will find strange to have friend that love to attend dinner with their ¬†family. ¬†We are currently teaching them what will be their “normality”

 

I have become more aware of this as I saw my 3yo stroll along with her baby on her back last week. ¬†Since I am fairly busy in trying to get ready for this big move, I have been BabyWearing a lot lately. She saw me, day after day, gettingPumpkin on my back, and start to work in the house. ¬† And the first thing I know, she wants to do just the same. ¬†I am pround to be teaching those values to my kids. ¬†Glad that this is a normality for them, just like breastfeeding will be. ¬†Just like attachement parenting will be. ¬†I am happy to have this 3rd LO of ours, so that my 2 oldest are really experiencing and seeing how we think child rearing should look like. ¬†And I can see they are taking it in. ¬†When I see my oldest caring for his baby brother the way we do, I see how powerful imitation really is, and how it is shaping him to act with little babies, and also with others. ¬†I feel proud to see my children taking in these values, ones that I didn’t grow up with, but that I am trying to make mine through work, reading, and time. ¬†And yet, it reminds me how each of my words, each of my action, state of mind are important when I am with them. ¬†They might be really little still, but they are fully aware of so many things that we think go unnoticed.

food for thought!

have a great nov. 1st!